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The Post-Event Autopsy
THE HIDDEN RULE
“Replay everything I said until I find the damage.” Clark and Wells called it the post-mortem, and the research is consistent: socially anxious minds replay the event for days, re-reading every ambiguous pause and flat 'nice to see you' as negative — the review doesn't find the truth, it manufactures the verdict.
RESEARCH FINDINGS
MECHANISMS
Role regression
Role regression is the pull, described in family systems theory, to revert to an old established role — the peacemaker, the scapegoat, the baby of the
Anticipatory anxiety loop
The anticipatory anxiety loop is the cycle, documented in social anxiety research, of dwelling on worst-case outcomes before a gathering (anticipatory
Expectation-reality gap
The expectation-reality gap is the documented mismatch between how intensely and how long people predict they'll feel about an anticipated event and h
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- Post flops, verdict stands: breaking the algorithm-as-judge cycle
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SCIENCE
- The science of social anxiety: why the audience in your head is bigger than the real one
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- The Science of Relapse Prevention: Why 'Just This Once' Is the Most Dangerous Script in Recovery
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