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Anticipatory anxiety loop
The anticipatory anxiety loop is the cycle, documented in social anxiety research, of dwelling on worst-case outcomes before a gathering (anticipatory processing) and then replaying every awkward moment afterward (post-event processing) — each round of rehearsal and replay reinforcing dread about the next one.
SEE THE PRACTICE
Turn a thought this research explains into one clear move.
THE THOUGHT
“It will blow up just like last year”
YOUR RECORDED RESPONSE
“This is the countdown, not the dinner.”
ONE PRIVATE MOVE
Open your phone notes and make a private line titled “If it starts.” Under it, write one exit phrase for yourself, one place you could pause, and one object you would want to bring with you.
How it sounds in your head
Three days before Thanksgiving you're already rehearsing the exact moment your uncle brings up politics; the day after, you're lying awake replaying the one comment you made that landed wrong — both loops feeding the version of you that's already dreading next year.
TEST_YOURSELF · How well do you know this science?
01 What is 'post-event processing' in the anticipatory anxiety loop?
Post-event processing is the repetitive, detailed mental review of a social situation after it ends, typically focused on perceived mistakes — one of the two mechanisms Clark and Wells identified as maintaining social anxiety, later confirmed by systematic review and meta-analysis. source ↗