REALITYWIPE

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Vanessa M. Patrick

Bauer College of Business, University of Houston

Known for:Research on refusal framing and 'empowered refusal' — how the language of no changes whether it holds

SEE THE PRACTICE

Turn a thought this research explains into one clear move.

THE THOUGHT

I have to justify my no, or it doesn't count

YOUR RECORDED RESPONSE

No is a complete sentence; I don't owe the paragraph after it.

ONE PRIVATE MOVE

Write a plain 'no' with zero explanation attached, then read it back out loud once, alone.

Key findings

  1. 2012

    With Hagtvedt, showed that refusals framed as 'I don't' — invoking a standing personal policy — were more persistent and felt more empowering than 'I can't', which signals a negotiable external constraint and invites renegotiation. "I Don't" versus "I Can't": When Empowered Refusal Motivates Goal-Directed Behavior

  2. 2023

    In The Power of Saying No, synthesizes this research into the framework of 'empowered refusal': a no delivered as a personal policy, grounded in one's own values, communicates conviction and draws less pushback than excuse-based refusals. The Power of Saying No: The New Science of How to Say No that Puts You in Charge of Your Life

Research areas

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