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RESEARCH_FILE

John M. Gottman

University of Washington / The Gottman Institute

Known for:Founder of the Love Lab; longitudinal observational research identifying the Four Horsemen (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling) and the 5-to-1 positive-to-negative ratio as predictors of relationship outcomes

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Key findings

  1. 1994

    Longitudinal study of 79 couples over four years showed that observational coding of Four Horsemen behavioral patterns during conflict conversations predicted divorce with ~93.6% accuracy — and distinguished couples who divorced from those who stayed unhappily married. What Predicts Divorce? The Relationship Between Marital Processes and Marital Outcomes

  2. 1998

    With Coan, Carrère and Swanson, demonstrated that the ratio of positive to negative interactions during conflict — not the presence of negativity alone — distinguishes stable from deteriorating marriages, with 5:1 as the threshold ratio for stability. Predicting Marital Happiness and Stability from Newlywed Interactions

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