SCRIPT CHECK · 60 SECONDS
Five quick questions show how often it appears, how believable it feels, and what it makes you avoid. You’ll get one private next step.
This is not a diagnosis and there is no pass or fail. It measures the current frequency, credibility, and behavioral cost of “I'm jealous of my pregnant friends and I hate myself for it”, including the private rule underneath it: Everyone around me gets pregnant easily, so my jealousy of them proves I'm fundamentally selfish and broken. If I were a good person, I would be happy first and hurt second. The fact that I'm hurt first means I'm failing at being human.
QUIET
“I'm jealous of my pregnant friends and I hate myself for it” appears, but it rarely gets the final say. Keep this line available for higher-pressure moments: “The jealousy is grief moving through me—it's not a character flaw, it's a documented response to loss.”
PRESENT
“I'm jealous of my pregnant friends and I hate myself for it” wins some small decisions before you catch it. Your useful interruption is: “I can love her and feel the sting of her news at the same time. I don't have to choose between them.”
ACTIVE
“I'm jealous of my pregnant friends and I hate myself for it” is shaping action often enough to deserve a deliberate counterexample. Start privately and concretely: Write down what you actually felt in the moment you learned the news—before you edited it into something acceptable. Don't share it. Just name the real response on paper.
DOMINANT
Right now, “I'm jealous of my pregnant friends and I hate myself for it” is steering many of the moments you measured. That is a pattern reading, not a diagnosis or character verdict. Begin with one reversible receipt: Write down what you actually felt in the moment you learned the news—before you edited it into something acceptable. Don't share it. Just name the real response on paper.