SCRIPT CHECK · 60 SECONDS
Five quick questions show how often it appears, how believable it feels, and what it makes you avoid. You’ll get one private next step.
This is not a diagnosis and there is no pass or fail. It measures the current frequency, credibility, and behavioral cost of “My friends stopped inviting me since I had kids”, including the private rule underneath it: If my friends truly valued me, they would find me even though I've become harder to reach. Because they haven't, I'm not worth the extra effort anymore. The safest move is to stop trying first, so I'm not the one left waiting.
QUIET
“My friends stopped inviting me since I had kids” appears, but it rarely gets the final say. Keep this line available for higher-pressure moments: “Half the network shrinks for everyone who becomes a parent. This is a tide, not a verdict.”
PRESENT
“My friends stopped inviting me since I had kids” wins some small decisions before you catch it. Your useful interruption is: “The friends who went quiet are not gone. They're waiting for an opening I keep not sending.”
ACTIVE
“My friends stopped inviting me since I had kids” is shaping action often enough to deserve a deliberate counterexample. Start privately and concretely: Write down one specific time in the next week you actually have free time. Tell one person that day in a single sentence. Don't ask permission or apologize. Observe what happens without deciding the meaning beforehand.
DOMINANT
Right now, “My friends stopped inviting me since I had kids” is steering many of the moments you measured. That is a pattern reading, not a diagnosis or character verdict. Begin with one reversible receipt: Write down one specific time in the next week you actually have free time. Tell one person that day in a single sentence. Don't ask permission or apologize. Observe what happens without deciding the meaning beforehand.