SCRIPT CHECK · 60 SECONDS
Five quick questions show how often it appears, how believable it feels, and what it makes you avoid. You’ll get one private next step.
This is not a diagnosis and there is no pass or fail. It measures the current frequency, credibility, and behavioral cost of “I lost all our friends in the breakup”, including the private rule underneath it: If the friend group formed around the relationship, then it belonged to the relationship, and everyone in it made their choice the day things ended. Any friend who's still around must be staying out of habit or guilt, not because they…
QUIET
“I lost all our friends in the breakup” appears, but it rarely gets the final say. Keep this line available for higher-pressure moments: “Some of those friendships were never part of a couple's package deal — I can find out which ones by looking, not guessing.”
PRESENT
“I lost all our friends in the breakup” wins some small decisions before you catch it. Your useful interruption is: “Missing one cookout photo isn't a verdict on the whole friendship. It's one Saturday I wasn't in the frame.”
ACTIVE
“I lost all our friends in the breakup” is shaping action often enough to deserve a deliberate counterexample. Start privately and concretely: Open your messages and note which people from that friend group have texted you one-on-one, outside any group thread, in the last few months. Just look — don't reply yet.
DOMINANT
Right now, “I lost all our friends in the breakup” is steering many of the moments you measured. That is a pattern reading, not a diagnosis or character verdict. Begin with one reversible receipt: Open your messages and note which people from that friend group have texted you one-on-one, outside any group thread, in the last few months. Just look — don't reply yet.