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Fat talk
Fat talk is ritualized negative talk about one's own body — 'I look huge in this', 'I need to lose weight' — exchanged socially, usually with the expectation of reassurance. Named by anthropologist Mimi Nichter from fieldwork with teenage girls, it functions as a bid for solidarity rather than a literal body report; in quantitative research, 93% of college women reported doing it, and its frequency tracked body dissatisfaction and thin-ideal internalization rather than body size.
How it sounds in your head
One friend says 'I look terrible today', the other answers 'you? look at me' — and the exchange feels like closeness. The research shows how the loop works: the most common response to fat talk is denial that the friend is fat, which rewards the ritual, and more frequent fat talk goes with feeling worse about your body, regardless of what the body is like.