QUIET
Quiet signal
“They're going to leave me” appears, but it rarely gets the final say. Keep this line available for higher-pressure moments: “Silence is an empty inbox, not a verdict. I don't write their side.”
SCRIPT CHECK · 60 SECONDS
“They're going to leave me”
See what this thought is changing.
Five quick questions show how often it appears, how believable it feels, and what it makes you avoid. You’ll get one private next step.
What this self-check measures
This is not a diagnosis and there is no pass or fail. It measures the current frequency, credibility, and behavioral cost of “They're going to leave me”, including the private rule underneath it: If someone goes quiet, I should treat it as the start of leaving and get ready before I’m the one who’s left waiting. I have to read between the lines, fill in the blanks, and act fast enough to protect myself from the worst-case ending.
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PRESENT
Present in the background
“They're going to leave me” wins some small decisions before you catch it. Your useful interruption is: “The alarm is old wiring, not current events.”
ACTIVE
Active pattern
“They're going to leave me” is shaping action often enough to deserve a deliberate counterexample. Start privately and concretely: Open your recent messages, choose one thread that has gone quiet, and write a private two-column note: “facts I have” and “stories I’m adding.” Stop after four lines total, then close it without sending anything.
DOMINANT
Getting the final word
Right now, “They're going to leave me” is steering many of the moments you measured. That is a pattern reading, not a diagnosis or character verdict. Begin with one reversible receipt: Open your recent messages, choose one thread that has gone quiet, and write a private two-column note: “facts I have” and “stories I’m adding.” Stop after four lines total, then close it without sending anything.
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