SCRIPT CHECK · 60 SECONDS
Five quick questions show how often it appears, how believable it feels, and what it makes you avoid. You’ll get one private next step.
This is not a diagnosis and there is no pass or fail. It measures the current frequency, credibility, and behavioral cost of “My sibling only calls when they need something”, including the private rule underneath it: My sibling only calls when they need something — which means I only matter when I'm useful to them. If I keep answering every time, maybe I can stay valuable enough to not be forgotten entirely.
QUIET
“My sibling only calls when they need something” appears, but it rarely gets the final say. Keep this line available for higher-pressure moments: “Their silence between problems is information about their relational style, not proof of my irrelevance.”
PRESENT
“My sibling only calls when they need something” wins some small decisions before you catch it. Your useful interruption is: “I can help and still see the pattern clearly without pretending the exchange is mutual.”
ACTIVE
“My sibling only calls when they need something” is shaping action often enough to deserve a deliberate counterexample. Start privately and concretely: Write down the last three calls from your sibling: the date, what they needed, and whether they asked you anything. Look at what you see. Don't send it to them or change your answers. Just finish the list.
DOMINANT
Right now, “My sibling only calls when they need something” is steering many of the moments you measured. That is a pattern reading, not a diagnosis or character verdict. Begin with one reversible receipt: Write down the last three calls from your sibling: the date, what they needed, and whether they asked you anything. Look at what you see. Don't send it to them or change your answers. Just finish the list.