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J. Jill Suitor

Purdue University

Known for:The Within-Family Differences Study — a long-running research program on parental favoritism and its effects across adult siblings' lives

SEE THE PRACTICE

Turn a thought this research explains into one clear move.

THE THOUGHT

Her parents like his brother's wife more

YOUR RECORDED RESPONSE

Their favoritism is their pattern. It has never been a measurement of who I am.

ONE PRIVATE MOVE

Name one specific moment when you felt the comparison land (a comment, a gesture, a decision), write it down in one sentence without interpretation, and notice whether you can hold that fact without it being a verdict about you.

Key findings

  1. 2013

    With Gilligan, Kim, and Pillemer, studying 341 adult children in 137 later-life families, Suitor found a father's — but not a mother's — current favoritism predicted tension between adult siblings, especially among daughters. Differential Effects of Perceptions of Mothers' and Fathers' Favoritism on Sibling Tension in Adulthood

  2. 2013

    Tracking mothers' favoritism over time, Suitor and colleagues found it to be remarkably stable across years — a mother's 'favorite' rarely changes — meaning perceived favoritism is a durable feature of the family system, not a passing phase. Continuity and Change in Mothers' Favoritism Toward Offspring in Adulthood

  3. 2016

    Modeling data on 381 older mothers and their 1,421 adult children, Suitor and colleagues found that how similar a child's values are to the mother's — more than the child's achievements — was the strongest predictor of maternal favoritism and disfavoritism. My Pride and Joy? Predicting Favoritism and Disfavoritism in Mother–Adult Child Relations

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