SCRIPT CHECK · 60 SECONDS
Five quick questions show how often it appears, how believable it feels, and what it makes you avoid. You’ll get one private next step.
This is not a diagnosis and there is no pass or fail. It measures the current frequency, credibility, and behavioral cost of “Their coworker gets more of their time and energy than I do”, including the private rule underneath it: If someone else gets the first, easiest laugh out of your partner's day, you assume whatever attention is left over for you is already a diminished, secondhand supply rather than its own separate account.
QUIET
“Their coworker gets more of their time and energy than I do” appears, but it rarely gets the final say. Keep this line available for higher-pressure moments: “The version of them that comes home to me is still mine, tired or not.”
PRESENT
“Their coworker gets more of their time and energy than I do” wins some small decisions before you catch it. Your useful interruption is: “Priya gets their workday energy. I get their evening. Those aren't the same account.”
ACTIVE
“Their coworker gets more of their time and energy than I do” is shaping action often enough to deserve a deliberate counterexample. Start privately and concretely: Open your calendar or notes app and list every time in the last ten days you initiated time together, then count it against the zero you've been assuming.
DOMINANT
Right now, “Their coworker gets more of their time and energy than I do” is steering many of the moments you measured. That is a pattern reading, not a diagnosis or character verdict. Begin with one reversible receipt: Open your calendar or notes app and list every time in the last ten days you initiated time together, then count it against the zero you've been assuming.