SCRIPT CHECK · 60 SECONDS
Five quick questions show how often it appears, how believable it feels, and what it makes you avoid. You’ll get one private next step.
This is not a diagnosis and there is no pass or fail. It measures the current frequency, credibility, and behavioral cost of “I can't see old friends until I've made something of myself”, including the private rule underneath it: The number is me. When it grows, I grow; when it stalls, I'm worthless. I cannot show up to people who knew me when I was nothing until I'm visibly something now.
QUIET
“I can't see old friends until I've made something of myself” appears, but it rarely gets the final say. Keep this line available for higher-pressure moments: “My net worth is a number my bank account keeps. It has never been the price of my friendship.”
PRESENT
“I can't see old friends until I've made something of myself” wins some small decisions before you catch it. Your useful interruption is: “People who've known me through broke times don't need a credentials check. They need a phone call.”
ACTIVE
“I can't see old friends until I've made something of myself” is shaping action often enough to deserve a deliberate counterexample. Start privately and concretely: Write the name of one person you're postponing. Look at the story you're protecting. Don't send anything yet—just see the postponement clearly.
DOMINANT
Right now, “I can't see old friends until I've made something of myself” is steering many of the moments you measured. That is a pattern reading, not a diagnosis or character verdict. Begin with one reversible receipt: Write the name of one person you're postponing. Look at the story you're protecting. Don't send anything yet—just see the postponement clearly.