SCRIPT CHECK · 60 SECONDS
Five quick questions show how often it appears, how believable it feels, and what it makes you avoid. You’ll get one private next step.
This is not a diagnosis and there is no pass or fail. It measures the current frequency, credibility, and behavioral cost of “They only touch me when they want sex”, including the private rule underneath it: If they touch you outside of sexual context, it's either a false start or a setup. Real touch is only the kind that leads somewhere. Protecting yourself means controlling when you're available to be touched, which means staying out of…
QUIET
“They only touch me when they want sex” appears, but it rarely gets the final say. Keep this line available for higher-pressure moments: “I want to be able to touch you without it meaning something. Can we figure out how to do that?”
PRESENT
“They only touch me when they want sex” wins some small decisions before you catch it. Your useful interruption is: “Touch without a destination is something we can rebuild, but we have to decide to rebuild it together.”
ACTIVE
“They only touch me when they want sex” is shaping action often enough to deserve a deliberate counterexample. Start privately and concretely: Sit or stand near your partner for five minutes without repositioning your body to avoid their reach. Notice whether they touch you casually. If they do, observe whether it escalates or simply ends. Write down exactly what happened.
DOMINANT
Right now, “They only touch me when they want sex” is steering many of the moments you measured. That is a pattern reading, not a diagnosis or character verdict. Begin with one reversible receipt: Sit or stand near your partner for five minutes without repositioning your body to avoid their reach. Notice whether they touch you casually. If they do, observe whether it escalates or simply ends. Write down exactly what happened.