SCRIPT CHECK · 60 SECONDS
Five quick questions show how often it appears, how believable it feels, and what it makes you avoid. You’ll get one private next step.
This is not a diagnosis and there is no pass or fail. It measures the current frequency, credibility, and behavioral cost of “My partner must compare me to other bodies”, including the private rule underneath it: Every body he sees is a measurement of mine. His attention elsewhere is a verdict. If I can find the right evidence of comparison, I can finally stop waiting for it.
QUIET
“My partner must compare me to other bodies” appears, but it rarely gets the final say. Keep this line available for higher-pressure moments: “His feed is separate from his hands on me. I can notice both without one proving the other.”
PRESENT
“My partner must compare me to other bodies” wins some small decisions before you catch it. Your useful interruption is: “I ask what I actually saw and heard, not what the thought is narrating.”
ACTIVE
“My partner must compare me to other bodies” is shaping action often enough to deserve a deliberate counterexample. Start privately and concretely: Write one moment you interpreted as comparison. Write the concrete facts of that moment separately. Notice where the narration and the facts split.
DOMINANT
Right now, “My partner must compare me to other bodies” is steering many of the moments you measured. That is a pattern reading, not a diagnosis or character verdict. Begin with one reversible receipt: Write one moment you interpreted as comparison. Write the concrete facts of that moment separately. Notice where the narration and the facts split.