SCRIPT CHECK · 60 SECONDS
Five quick questions show how often it appears, how believable it feels, and what it makes you avoid. You’ll get one private next step.
This is not a diagnosis and there is no pass or fail. It measures the current frequency, credibility, and behavioral cost of “They only step up when I explicitly ask”, including the private rule underneath it: If I have to ask first, then initiative is something they choose not to exercise with me. My job is to ask so they will act. Without my request, nothing happens—and that means nothing would happen without me managing it.
QUIET
“They only step up when I explicitly ask” appears, but it rarely gets the final say. Keep this line available for higher-pressure moments: “I notice the gap between what I request and what they anticipate. I don't have to close it alone.”
PRESENT
“They only step up when I explicitly ask” wins some small decisions before you catch it. Your useful interruption is: “The asking is cognitive labor. So is noticing. One conversation about who does which is more honest than fifty requests.”
ACTIVE
“They only step up when I explicitly ask” is shaping action often enough to deserve a deliberate counterexample. Start privately and concretely: Write down one task you would normally request. For three days, don't ask. Note what happens, when, and what starts it. Observe only.
DOMINANT
Right now, “They only step up when I explicitly ask” is steering many of the moments you measured. That is a pattern reading, not a diagnosis or character verdict. Begin with one reversible receipt: Write down one task you would normally request. For three days, don't ask. Note what happens, when, and what starts it. Observe only.