SCRIPT CHECK · 60 SECONDS
Five quick questions show how often it appears, how believable it feels, and what it makes you avoid. You’ll get one private next step.
This is not a diagnosis and there is no pass or fail. It measures the current frequency, credibility, and behavioral cost of “If it's not on a sticky note on the fridge, it doesn't exist to them”, including the private rule underneath it: Somewhere along the way you started believing that information only becomes real to him once it's physically taped to the fridge in your own handwriting — texts, calendar entries, and spoken reminders are treated as drafts that don't…
QUIET
“If it's not on a sticky note on the fridge, it doesn't exist to them” appears, but it rarely gets the final say. Keep this line available for higher-pressure moments: “I already said it twice — the sticky note isn't proof I forgot, it's proof the other two didn't land.”
PRESENT
“If it's not on a sticky note on the fridge, it doesn't exist to them” wins some small decisions before you catch it. Your useful interruption is: “A handwritten note shouldn't outrank a calendar invite and a direct conversation.”
ACTIVE
“If it's not on a sticky note on the fridge, it doesn't exist to them” is shaping action often enough to deserve a deliberate counterexample. Start privately and concretely: Move the reminder pad from the kitchen drawer to a closet shelf for three days and notice how many times you almost reach for it anyway.
DOMINANT
Right now, “If it's not on a sticky note on the fridge, it doesn't exist to them” is steering many of the moments you measured. That is a pattern reading, not a diagnosis or character verdict. Begin with one reversible receipt: Move the reminder pad from the kitchen drawer to a closet shelf for three days and notice how many times you almost reach for it anyway.