SCRIPT CHECK · 60 SECONDS
Five quick questions show how often it appears, how believable it feels, and what it makes you avoid. You’ll get one private next step.
This is not a diagnosis and there is no pass or fail. It measures the current frequency, credibility, and behavioral cost of “I'm abandoning my faith by choosing to marry someone outside of it”, including the private rule underneath it: A wedding is a referendum on my faith, and saying yes to this specific person is the vote that decides it — permanently, and against me.
QUIET
“I'm abandoning my faith by choosing to marry someone outside of it” appears, but it rarely gets the final say. Keep this line available for higher-pressure moments: “Who I marry is a decision about a life, not a verdict on what I believe.”
PRESENT
“I'm abandoning my faith by choosing to marry someone outside of it” wins some small decisions before you catch it. Your useful interruption is: “My faith is measured by what I practice, not by the guest list at one ceremony.”
ACTIVE
“I'm abandoning my faith by choosing to marry someone outside of it” is shaping action often enough to deserve a deliberate counterexample. Start privately and concretely: Privately write down three things you still do that belong to your faith this month. Read the list back. Don't send it to anyone.
DOMINANT
Right now, “I'm abandoning my faith by choosing to marry someone outside of it” is steering many of the moments you measured. That is a pattern reading, not a diagnosis or character verdict. Begin with one reversible receipt: Privately write down three things you still do that belong to your faith this month. Read the list back. Don't send it to anyone.