SCRIPT CHECK · 60 SECONDS
Five quick questions show how often it appears, how believable it feels, and what it makes you avoid. You’ll get one private next step.
This is not a diagnosis and there is no pass or fail. It measures the current frequency, credibility, and behavioral cost of “I run my major life decisions by my family's religion before I decide what I want”, including the private rule underneath it: My family's religious framework has to clear every major decision before my own preference is allowed to count, as if my judgment only becomes valid once it's been checked against theirs.
QUIET
“I run my major life decisions by my family's religion before I decide what I want” appears, but it rarely gets the final say. Keep this line available for higher-pressure moments: “This choice is mine to make. Their framework can exist without ruling on it first.”
PRESENT
“I run my major life decisions by my family's religion before I decide what I want” wins some small decisions before you catch it. Your useful interruption is: “I can respect what my family believes without asking it to sign off on my apartment, my job, my life.”
ACTIVE
“I run my major life decisions by my family's religion before I decide what I want” is shaping action often enough to deserve a deliberate counterexample. Start privately and concretely: Privately write one sentence naming what you want from a current decision, with no mention of what your family's religion would say about it. Read it once, then close the note.
DOMINANT
Right now, “I run my major life decisions by my family's religion before I decide what I want” is steering many of the moments you measured. That is a pattern reading, not a diagnosis or character verdict. Begin with one reversible receipt: Privately write one sentence naming what you want from a current decision, with no mention of what your family's religion would say about it. Read it once, then close the note.