When this happens, how much does it change what you do next: Exhaustion sits in your chest as a moral failure—if you were strong enough, you wouldn't feel this wrung out.

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SCRIPT CHECK · 60 SECONDS

“Everyone depends on me”

See what this thought is changing.

Five quick questions show how often it appears, how believable it feels, and what it makes you avoid. You’ll get one private next step.

5 questions · about 1 minute · no account needed

What this self-check measures

This is not a diagnosis and there is no pass or fail. It measures the current frequency, credibility, and behavioral cost of “Everyone depends on me”, including the private rule underneath it: I am not allowed to struggle, complain, or need support—any visible wobble signals that I'm abandoning the people who depend on me. My only job is to carry this invisibly, because if they knew how thin I actually am, they would panic,…

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QUIET

Quiet signal

“Everyone depends on me” appears, but it rarely gets the final say. Keep this line available for higher-pressure moments: “Struggling doesn't betray them. Silence about struggling is what breaks the connection.”

PRESENT

Present in the background

“Everyone depends on me” wins some small decisions before you catch it. Your useful interruption is: “I can name my real limits and still show up. Honesty is steadier than performance.”

ACTIVE

Active pattern

“Everyone depends on me” is shaping action often enough to deserve a deliberate counterexample. Start privately and concretely: Write down one true sentence about your capacity this week—not shared, just witnessed by yourself. Read it back. Notice whether you feel relief or guilt. That gap tells you something.

DOMINANT

Getting the final word

Right now, “Everyone depends on me” is steering many of the moments you measured. That is a pattern reading, not a diagnosis or character verdict. Begin with one reversible receipt: Write down one true sentence about your capacity this week—not shared, just witnessed by yourself. Read it back. Notice whether you feel relief or guilt. That gap tells you something.