SCRIPT CHECK · 60 SECONDS
Five quick questions show how often it appears, how believable it feels, and what it makes you avoid. You’ll get one private next step.
This is not a diagnosis and there is no pass or fail. It measures the current frequency, credibility, and behavioral cost of “I timed how long they lingered talking to someone their own age at the gym”, including the private rule underneath it: The private rule is that a conversation has a safe length, and past it your partner is quietly re-choosing someone their own age over you. Timing it feels like data collection, but it's really a way of turning an ordinary gym chat into a…
QUIET
“I timed how long they lingered talking to someone their own age at the gym” appears, but it rarely gets the final say. Keep this line available for higher-pressure moments: “A few minutes at the squat rack is a stretch break, not a verdict on us.”
PRESENT
“I timed how long they lingered talking to someone their own age at the gym” wins some small decisions before you catch it. Your useful interruption is: “I can notice the urge to check the clock without letting it set my pace.”
ACTIVE
“I timed how long they lingered talking to someone their own age at the gym” is shaping action often enough to deserve a deliberate counterexample. Start privately and concretely: Set a phone timer for two minutes, sit with the urge to check on them without acting on it, then write one line in your notes app about what the urge was really tracking.
DOMINANT
Right now, “I timed how long they lingered talking to someone their own age at the gym” is steering many of the moments you measured. That is a pattern reading, not a diagnosis or character verdict. Begin with one reversible receipt: Set a phone timer for two minutes, sit with the urge to check on them without acting on it, then write one line in your notes app about what the urge was really tracking.