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The Shrink Script
| Program family | Dark program / Old script |
| Key | shrink-script |
| Known instances | 3 |
| Status | ACTIVE |
“If I let them see me win, they'll resent me — so stay small, stay liked.” Tall-poppy research found friends are the most common cutters, and the defense people learn is hiding the milestone. The bill: friendships where your whole life can't attend.
- Good news gets announced with a discount: 'it's honestly not a big deal'.
- You've delayed sharing a milestone until it was old news and safe.
- Around certain friends you edit your life down to its problems.
The tall poppy cut-down is the social act of undermining, criticizing, or dismissing someone because they appear to be succeeding beyond what the group considers 'appropriate' — no
The success-hiding defense — also called milestone-hiding — is a learned self-silencing strategy in which people who have experienced social penalties for visible achievement preem
A social leveling norm is the implicit group rule that no individual should rise too far above the perceived collective level — and that those who do should be brought back down. B
- A friendship that requires my smallness is charging rent I won't pay.
- I share the win at full size. Whoever stays is my actual circle.
- Shrinking never made anyone else bigger. It just made me smaller.
STATUS: READY_TO_INSTALL
“I have to play small around them”
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SCIENCE
- The Science of Tall Poppy Syndrome: Why Friends Cut Down Your Success — and Why You Learn to Hide It
- The Friendship Recession: What the Data Actually Show About Shrinking Social Circles
- The Science of Losing Friends to Marriage and Kids: Why Circles Shrink on Schedule
- The Science of One-Sided Friendships: Why Half Your Friend List Doesn't Match Theirs
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