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The Seniority Script
| Program family | Dark program / Old script |
| Key | inlawc-seniority |
| Known instances | 3 |
| Status | ACTIVE |
“They raised children, so they outrank us in our own home.” Coparenting research is specific: it's grandparent psychological control — not disagreement itself — that best predicts conflict between the generations. The script converts their experience into authority, and your parenthood into an internship.
- You explain your parenting decisions like a defendant, not a parent.
- House rules dissolve the moment their car pulls into the driveway.
- Unannounced visits get treated like weather — something you plan around, never something you can decline.
The chronic stress that occurs when a family hasn't clearly agreed on who is 'in' the family system and what authority they hold — for example, whether a parent-in-law has a say in
Bowen's term for what happens when a two-person relationship under stress pulls in a third person to absorb or redirect the tension, instead of the original pair resolving it direc
The pull toward diffuse family boundaries — where responsibility, authority and personal decisions blur between generations — that Minuchin identified as one end of a continuum opp
- Experience is advice. It is not authority.
- We are the parents. That sentence doesn't need their signature.
- I can honor what they built without handing them the keys to my house.
STATUS: READY_TO_INSTALL
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