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The Loyalty Tribunal
| Program family | Dark program / Old script |
| Key | fvp-loyalty-tribunal |
| Known instances | 3 |
| Status | ACTIVE |
“Staying with her is a vote against them — someone has to lose.” The script frames love as defection and demands a ruling. But the forced choice is the script's invention: research on couples' networks finds relationships do best woven into friendships, not ransomed against them — and the myth that disapproval makes love burn hotter collapsed under replication.
- You draft every plan twice — one version the group would approve of, one your partner would.
- Declining one invitation feels like filing for divorce from the whole friend group.
- You've stopped mentioning good news about the relationship, because happiness reads as betrayal in that room.
The well-replicated finding that a couple's own friends and family — their 'social network' — meaningfully predict whether the relationship lasts: approval and integration are link
The bind of feeling pulled between allegiance to a friend group and commitment to a partner when the two disagree — research on 'marginalized relationships' shows this tension is l
The self-talk habit of treating a friend's early, offhand opinion of a partner as a fixed, final verdict — when research shows both a partner's own qualities and other people's app
- Nobody appointed this court. I decline the case, not the people.
- Loving him and loving them are two different files. The script is the only thing merging them.
- I don't owe anyone a loser. I can hold both — the ultimatum is the script talking, not the friendship.
STATUS: READY_TO_INSTALL
“I have to pick a side”
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SCRIPTS
- I have to pick a side | When love feels like defection
- Choosing her means losing them: when love feels like betrayal of your friends
- When Family Disapproval Feels Like Proof You Chose Wrong
- Maybe I'm Blinded by Love: when other people's doubts start rewriting what you know
- If I stay with him, I'll end up alone: when love starts feeling like social exile
- I’m competing with his mother: when family loyalty feels like a contest
- I can't take sides between them: why loyalty feels split between partner and parents
- When loved ones' opinions become your partner's verdict
SCIENCE
- The Science of Friends Disliking Your Partner: What Network Approval Really Predicts
- The Science of a Partner Who Won't Defend You: What Couples Research Actually Shows
- The Science of People-Pleasing: Why Saying No Costs Less Than Your Brain Predicts
- The Science of One-Sided Friendships: Why Half Your Friend List Doesn't Match Theirs
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