“Every incident goes in the case file: they ALWAYS, they NEVER.” Gottman's research is blunt — once complaints become character verdicts, the relationship is arguing with contempt, the single strongest predictor of divorce.
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The Science of the Four Horsemen: How Gottman's Love Lab Learned to Predict Divorce
6 scripts this research explains — Most couples fight. What predicts divorce isn't how often you argue — it's which patterns show up in how you argue. Psyc
“Bringing it up starts a fight; swallowing it keeps the peace.” It keeps a ceasefire, not a peace — and the unsaid compounds into distance or one big detonation.