SCRIPT CHECK · 60 SECONDS
Five quick questions show how often it appears, how believable it feels, and what it makes you avoid. You’ll get one private next step.
This is not a diagnosis and there is no pass or fail. It measures the current frequency, credibility, and behavioral cost of “Their life is what mine should look like”, including the private rule underneath it: What they choose to show is what their life actually is, and the fact that they curate it doesn't change what I should want. If I'm not living that, I'm building the wrong life.
QUIET
“Their life is what mine should look like” appears, but it rarely gets the final say. Keep this line available for higher-pressure moments: “That photo is one frame. I have the whole footage, and nobody else gets to see mine the way I do.”
PRESENT
“Their life is what mine should look like” wins some small decisions before you catch it. Your useful interruption is: “If I want to know their real life, I ask them directly—I don't read it off a feed.”
ACTIVE
“Their life is what mine should look like” is shaping action often enough to deserve a deliberate counterexample. Start privately and concretely: Next time a social media post lands as a comparison, write down the single specific detail you're measuring yourself against—the trip, the body, the ease—without judgment. Look at what your life actually contains that day instead.
DOMINANT
Right now, “Their life is what mine should look like” is steering many of the moments you measured. That is a pattern reading, not a diagnosis or character verdict. Begin with one reversible receipt: Next time a social media post lands as a comparison, write down the single specific detail you're measuring yourself against—the trip, the body, the ease—without judgment. Look at what your life actually contains that day instead.