SCRIPT CHECK · 60 SECONDS
Five quick questions show how often it appears, how believable it feels, and what it makes you avoid. You’ll get one private next step.
This is not a diagnosis and there is no pass or fail. It measures the current frequency, credibility, and behavioral cost of “They're smiling at their phone — it's not me making them smile”, including the private rule underneath it: If they're smiling at something on their phone, that happiness is proof they're connected to someone better than me, and if I can't see it, I should assume the worst.
QUIET
“They're smiling at their phone — it's not me making them smile” appears, but it rarely gets the final say. Keep this line available for higher-pressure moments: “A screen made them smile. I don't have the information to know why, and that not knowing is okay.”
PRESENT
“They're smiling at their phone — it's not me making them smile” wins some small decisions before you catch it. Your useful interruption is: “My mind wants to write the ending of that story. I can notice it doing that without treating the story as true.”
ACTIVE
“They're smiling at their phone — it's not me making them smile” is shaping action often enough to deserve a deliberate counterexample. Start privately and concretely: When you notice the phone smile next, write down only what you directly observed—not what you interpreted. Read it back. Notice the distance between observation and the story you built.
DOMINANT
Right now, “They're smiling at their phone — it's not me making them smile” is steering many of the moments you measured. That is a pattern reading, not a diagnosis or character verdict. Begin with one reversible receipt: When you notice the phone smile next, write down only what you directly observed—not what you interpreted. Read it back. Notice the distance between observation and the story you built.