SCRIPT CHECK · 60 SECONDS
Five quick questions show how often it appears, how believable it feels, and what it makes you avoid. You’ll get one private next step.
This is not a diagnosis and there is no pass or fail. It measures the current frequency, credibility, and behavioral cost of “They loved their ex more than they love me”, including the private rule underneath it: Their relationship with the ex was deeper, more passionate, more real—and what I get is the quieter, safer version. If I can find enough evidence of their greater passion then, I can explain why this doesn't feel like being chosen.
QUIET
“They loved their ex more than they love me” appears, but it rarely gets the final say. Keep this line available for higher-pressure moments: “I'm comparing my full self-knowledge against a story I invented about a stranger with no actual evidence.”
PRESENT
“They loved their ex more than they love me” wins some small decisions before you catch it. Your useful interruption is: “I check what they actually do now, not what I imagine they felt about someone I've never met.”
ACTIVE
“They loved their ex more than they love me” is shaping action often enough to deserve a deliberate counterexample. Start privately and concretely: Write one specific thing your partner did in the last 48 hours that required them to think of you or care about your wellbeing. Look only at action, not tone or speed. This is current evidence—keep it.
DOMINANT
Right now, “They loved their ex more than they love me” is steering many of the moments you measured. That is a pattern reading, not a diagnosis or character verdict. Begin with one reversible receipt: Write one specific thing your partner did in the last 48 hours that required them to think of you or care about your wellbeing. Look only at action, not tone or speed. This is current evidence—keep it.