SCRIPT CHECK · 60 SECONDS
Five quick questions show how often it appears, how believable it feels, and what it makes you avoid. You’ll get one private next step.
This is not a diagnosis and there is no pass or fail. It measures the current frequency, credibility, and behavioral cost of “My love will split and both kids will get less”, including the private rule underneath it: A parent's love is a fixed, divisible resource. When you add a child, the existing child must receive less. The math is inescapable: more for one = less for the other. You are a bank account, not a source that expands.
QUIET
“My love will split and both kids will get less” appears, but it rarely gets the final say. Keep this line available for higher-pressure moments: “Love doesn't divide like money. That's the wrong math, and the research doesn't support it.”
PRESENT
“My love will split and both kids will get less” wins some small decisions before you catch it. Your useful interruption is: “My first child didn't halve my capacity when they arrived. This one won't either.”
ACTIVE
“My love will split and both kids will get less” is shaping action often enough to deserve a deliberate counterexample. Start privately and concretely: Write down one specific memory of loving your first child in their first year. Then write what you notice about whether that love felt diminished or less real than it does now. Keep it private.
DOMINANT
Right now, “My love will split and both kids will get less” is steering many of the moments you measured. That is a pattern reading, not a diagnosis or character verdict. Begin with one reversible receipt: Write down one specific memory of loving your first child in their first year. Then write what you notice about whether that love felt diminished or less real than it does now. Keep it private.